A Note To My 15 Year Old Self

I recently came across this TedTalk by Caira Lee on Self-Love + Self Esteem. It got me thinking, at one point she started reciting a poem to her 15-year-old self. I wondered what I'd tell my 15-year-old self, so I took a moment to write what I'd say and I'd like to share it with you now.

I’d tell that sweet naïve beautiful young girl that sex does not equal love. That you should never let anyone near you or enter you that doesn't respect you. I would tell that young girl that she is beautiful and her curves are not a flaw but a goddess-like representation of the way God made you. Just take a look at the birth of Venus by Botticelli :)!

I would tell her not to get caught up in needing to look and dress like everyone else. You don’t need to fit in to belong. I would tell her to love, respect and take care of herself. I would tell her that one-day high school will be over and not one single hurtful opinion from your peers will matter. I’d let her know that there is life beyond high school. A big beautiful one! When you get out you find a tribe of people who love and support you for who you are and what you have to offer. I would tell her that everything's going to be all right and not to worry about making mistakes because it is in our mistakes that we learn valuable lessons. I’d ask her to consider getting to know herself really well and stand for herself. I’d tell her that her voice matters and that using it will empower her. Yes, there are so many things I'd like to say to her and above all I’d tell her she's beautiful and loved.

No matter what age are, what size you are, loving yourself is the best thing you could do for yourself and the people you love. You matter. xo- laurie marie