Posts in Self Love
SEEING BEAUTY SESSIONS EPISODE 3: Learning To Love Myself Through Illness by Shaena Ragna

In this episode I talk candidly with a long time support, friend, and amazing human Shaena Ragna. Shaena share’s her story of how she transformed her relationship with herself & her body over the years. How self-care has played such an important roll and how she’s learned how to truly care for herself after illness. She also shares her take on motherhood, beauty, and much more!

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A Letter To My Body

I wrote a letter to my body, it’s been a long time coming and well deserved. I spent almost two decades hating her and putting her down. It wasn’t until I decided it was time to make myself a priority and heal from trauma that I began to heal my relationship with her. This letter was long overdue and I owed her an apology.

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How to stop self-sabotaging behavior

I’ve realized that I’ve had this pattern of hiding, playing small, and I’m pretty sure I’ve hit an upper limit problem. We all have ways that this shows up, so I’m not going to beat myself up for it or make myself wrong but I know it’s not serving me when it happens either. It doesn’t serve me and it definitely doesn’t serve the people who I’m meant to serve if I’m rolled up in the fetal position playing Bubba Witch on my phone. lol I’m here to share with you 3 Simple ways to stop self-sabotage now!

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Turning Shame & Judgement Into Self-Acceptance

I have a confession to make… I play Pokemon… there I said it. I’ve been playing since July and I’ve learned so much from this game about shame, judgement, and how I hold myself back from things that bring me pleasure. I’ve been so embarrassed and ashamed to let anyone know that I play, even strangers walking by I will find myself ever so cleverly pulling my phone closer to me so they can’t see the oh so obvious swipes all Poke players make. Let’s just say, it’s pretty obvious. Lol But through the shame and embarrassment I’ve found acceptance and I’ve learned that what we resist or judge in ourselves or others gives us a pretty good clue as to what we truly desire…

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We are meant to feel and love all of our pieces

I’ve spent decades fighting to hold back emotions and I’ve gotten to a place of acceptance when they come up. We are meant to feel, we are meant to emote, and I’m grateful to no longer feel shame or the need to apologize when I get emotional. Being human means we feel, we emote, and all of it is beautiful no matter how messy. Self-love isn’t just loving your body or your “good” pieces, it’s about loving all of your mess.

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SIMPLE TIPS TO GROUND YOURSELF

No, I'm not talking about going to your room grounding, I'm talking about the get right in your body, center yourself, and your energy type grounding.

You may be thinking "why would I need to ground myself?" Grounding helps get you prepped for the day. Also helps keep unwanted energy from coming at yeah and just gets you off to a great start! Below are a few simple tips to get cha grounded and ready for the day!

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Celebrate the journey!

I’m 36 days into my weight loss journey and closely approaching the 20 lbs down mark [like literally ounces away]lol. Often I’ve had a tendency to focus on the destination and forget to celebrate the journey. 

So I wanted to take a moment to do just that. This has been a long road for me. It started with 100lb weight gain after sexual trauma in my early twenties. I felt so uncomfortable in my own skin and spent over a decade hating my body yet living like everything was just fine. Until it wasn't.

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Losing Weight & Healing Trauma

I started this weight loss journey a little over a month ago and while it feels familiar to attempts in the past. The main difference is that I'm committed and ready. It is time to release the extra weight I've been carrying with me for so long. I finally feel and believe that: I am safe, my body is safe, and I'm grateful for all my body has done for me after experiencing sexual trauma and now it's time to let it all go.Healing emotions & trauma is one of the most powerful things we can do in our lifetime.

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Naked In Alaska

Naked in Alaska is raw, truthful & brought up a time in my life where I was part of that world. There was a time in my early 20s when I spent a lot of time at strip clubs. I had friends that were in the business, I'd go out with them and men would pay me to give the other strippers money. At the time I thought this was great, they'd buy me drinks, the attention felt great (even though it wasn't the kind of attention I truly desired) I’d dance which I’ve always loved. Like Valerie, I too was looking for belonging, connection, and as a struggling young single mom, the money was very tempting.

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Are you brave enough to be who you are?

I've spent much of my life hiding my voice, hiding who I really am, and hiding in my body. This is ironic because, after my weight gain, it was harder to hide. I've been hiding my emotions, hiding the fact that I'm sensitive hiding that I'm strong hiding in front of the camera, as well as, behind the camera. Truth is I'm tired of hiding and even more tired of playing small...

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Accepting My So Called "Flaws".

these images are an after of my self-love journey. Typically you see before and afters as a transformation of "losing the weight" but this was a transformation of my heart. Transforming my hatred for my body and instead, learning to love it, all of it. Thank you, my dear dear friend, for capturing these images for me, when I look at them all I see is love. Love for myself and love for my body, she's been with me, protecting me this whole time. I just couldn't see it before. 

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How do you get into the pool?

I believe how you get into a pool is a great metaphor for life. Me, I've always just gone for it, knowing it might be really cold but knowing that ultimatley I'll warm up if I just keep moving. I'm jumping in cannonball style because that's how I jump into all areas of my life. I'm jumping in boldly + bravely and deep down I know that whatever comes my way I'll pull through because I always pull through.

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